And why it makes a difference for living love and peace.
Copyright @ Overgrowth
A simple do-it-yourself method to create non-attached relationships.
We want to love deeply and build peaceful temples for sweet relationships and communities. We cry out for liberated freedom. But what if we cannot do that soulful work? What if the fabric of the past is knotted up and we are constantly pulled back into annoying relationship dramas and desperate, predictable, painful endings? We may be triggered by a ball of thread that sends us back and back to places we do not want to be anymore. Frustration is the space where an unwatched play is played out anyway.
There is a fabric we brought with us to this lifetime thatâ€™s woven in our souls. Each remnant of our personal patchwork represents an aspect that we have not lived and fulfilled in past lives. It shapes our current life. It helps us to understand what we have not yet understood and accept what we have not yet fully accepted.
Hereâ€™s the good news: inside us there is fertile soil for total freedom. That freedom grows and flourishes in the non-attached parts of our soul. It will allow us to love how we want to love and circulate abundant peace.
Non-attachment is neither passionless apathy nor separation from the other. It means a new beginning; a chance to encounter each other in the land of our sensual, unburied soul. She loves without limits and drums her peace down to earth.
The non-attached space of ourselves is free to make choices. It is the third place beyond acting but being ourselves.
Attached relationship is: not being able to breathe in the presence of the other; to fall into rigid habits; to shut down our hearts; a monkey wrench in peace-making processes. Most attached or co-dependent relationships are populated by one dominant participant and one submissive participant. When we are in these positions, we play a role we cannot get out of.
Non-attached relationship is: liberation; total freedom to love, to be who we are, to change our situations. It is the space between us to hold sensual longings and horizons of playful possibility. It is the loving heart thatâ€™s freed from painful experiences and is not destined to repeat them.
Change Karma is the new patchwork we sew when we finally start to grow into the empty spaces, to master our growth, to weave the experience we want. All but the highest version of self can be blurred by energy that keeps us truly alive. The relationship or painful, destructive aspect in the relationship will cease.
It may signify the end of a relationship that kept you bonded and attached, but mostly it is a rebirth into new blossoming.
For decades I have used this simple method to protect my own spheres and territory without interfering or penetrating the space of the other.
Any time I feel my aura perturbed and stormy, dependent upon another person, institution or dynamic, I just imagine the golden eight and the neon light. I set my pace and continue until I find myself again.
It works for
: messy cooperation
: fraught ties with family members
: crazy outbursting love affairs
: reestablishing compromised boundaries
: balancing Shiva-Shakti
: a missing desired love in your life
: a missing desired aspect in your life
Choose a person, dynamic or Institution/organization that dominates you. Think of somebody or something that traps you in an old pattern or paradigm.
Itâ€™s important to choose just one and not to bundle many together. You can do one after the other to smooth out and dissolve the knotted fabric.
Let your soul/higher self guide you.
You can imagine this or actually take two cushions and perform it on the floor.
You can stand or sit, whatever feels good.
Visualize a golden circle the size of your outstretched arms on the floor. Now visualize another circle that just touches your circle. In this second circle place the other person, dynamic or institution. Let her/it sit there. The circles should gently touch but not overlap one another.
Visualize a neon blue light coming like a ray from the source of all love, and it touches the circles and starts to circulate clockwise. First it flows from the center point and circles around your partner. Then it returns to the center point and flows around you behind your back, and returns again to the center point. Keep the light flowing in this pattern, creating a figure eight around you and the other.
Start to feel how aspects that donâ€™t belong in your field pop up and return to their rightful place across from you. As this continues your aura gets spacious and clear. Let the eight circulate as long as needed until you feel liberated and free.
Then let the blue ray return with gratitude to the divine. Release the person, dynamic or institution with gratitude.
For sticky cases, visualize it every morning and evening for two minutes.
You can do it when something has happened that disturbs your space and mood.
You can do it as a detox cure for 2 weeks.
You can do it as often you like.
: It will calm your space.
: It will help you to expand your light.
: It will make you feel good.
: Patterns come to love.
: Patterns come to peace.
: The divine takes you home.
: Your light shines.
I hope it will help you in these times. Let me know.
Gratitude needs a +
Copyright @ Judy B. Dales
I do not know what your life is up to those days, but mine is a cosmic crack between leaving old skins behind and a new, unknown creation.
Itâ€™s itchy sometimes, and overwhelming. When the next thing emerges from the deep, itâ€™s so new, so unfamiliar. The future feels strange because, to us, it is a stranger.
There is just one thing that brings me back to myself when things go this way.
Itâ€™s all about shifting the perspective.
â€śBe thankful for what you have, and you will end up having more. If you concentrate on what you donâ€™t have, you will never ever have enough.â€ť @ Oprah Winfrey
If satisfaction is reliant upon external acknowledgement, money, vacations, achieved goals, then that satisfaction will have a very short life span. The material world is fallible and temporary; what you win, you can easily lose. Power gained externally lives externally to you. Much better to invest in internal, eternal, infallible ways to connect.
The number one magical tool to transform your life is laser-sharp gratitude. I promise you it changes things. But I do not want to promote a New Age cliche. So we need to do it right.
I believe in perfection of creation. The universe works mysteriously and we are constantly the beneficiary of her generosity. All has been given to us; such wondrousness we could not have created ourselves.
Even gratefulness is created by the source. To connect to that gratefulness is to tap into the presence of an unimaginably generous force. It takes us instantly back into the flow of the cosmos.
To be grateful does not mean that all is good in this world; certainly it is not. Negativity is so easy. But we need to open new horizons to make gratitude work. Clarissa Pinkola Estes said, â€śDo not complain, do not criticize, do not condemn.â€ť Those 3 Câ€™s are a turnaround point. When we can catch ourselves in those moments, itâ€™s a chance to open troublesome life situations to new possibilities, and to open up the cosmic flow.
See, this is the work that matters.
Current gratitude is the higher force, the higher aim. You created everything you see, hear, feel, experience. You are meant to flow with the cosmic flow and figure out how to maintain it endlessly.
We are here to realize ourselves. We cannot do this if we undermine our own mission. Life can be cruel, and we still have the potential to mirror our real Selves. We need to brightly polish our life-reflecting and life-affirming mirrors. We need to unravel the Self, for Self realization.
Gratitude is the work that lifts us up, to build energy and motivation.
Hereâ€™s the formula:
Start with â€śI am grateful,â€ť then add the â€ś+â€ť
my favorite gratitude +â€™s
for the simple, the mundane, the boring
for the silent divinity we constantly overlook
Doing this adds truth, identity and spirit to the essentials, to the perpetual presence of spirit. Gratitude for the clean water running out of your tap, so obvious. The salt in your kitchen that came from the sea. Our sense of eternity, the body of we are in. Just look for what is around you, so naturally filled with grace, the small things so normal to our lives.
Get detailed and specific, like â€śI am grateful + for my feet that carry me every day from bed to my bath to my workplace. For the way they can be warmed up when they are cold.â€ť or â€śI am grateful
+ for the sun rising and bringing light into my room when I wake up in the morning.â€ť
Just starting here will open new horizons and richness to your life.
for things that are challenging, devastating or even destructive
This is the most difficult one. When life goes against us, when the death of something is close or we have desperately lost something. You will not rise moaning. No self pity will shift you.
Just try it, and find the seedâ€™s realization in the crops.
â€śI am grateful + for what this situation is teaching me.â€ť
+ add a lesson of beauty beyond and a change of perspective
She listens and absorbs the vibes you send out.
â€śI am grateful + for the future.â€ť
+ add a new expansion, a chance to grow, an excitement, a great opportunity.
This where the magic lies.
Detailed gratitude makes the difference.
Gratefulness is a vital organ and an exercise.
It will train your heart and open a way of life.
Here, the source becomes a constant companion.
Trust creates space for others to walk in.
Then invest in their best, and give out bonuses.
Do it with your eyes wide open.
My first real boyfriend cheated on me. He went on tour with a school musical for two months and we did not see each other the whole time. I did not cheat. I was faithful.
I decided to trust anyway.
I would trust men in the future. As an investment. With risk.
It took me awhile to accept that my confident expectation of commitment was not met. But in the end itâ€™s my loyalty to myself that makes the day run smoothly.
My father cheated on my Mum. He went so far as to introduce me to his new conquests, manipulating my trust. The women pretended to be my cool girlfriends as a ploy to turn me into their ally. It was only my instinct telling me: Something is wrong here. Does Mum know?
I did not want to be his accomplice, or theirs. I felt betrayed. We all deserve to be told the truth about situations others put us in, so that we may accept or reject the situation from our essence. Fabricated emotional settings blur our essenceâ€™s ability to discern safe ways to interact and connect. Swallow. I went on.
I decided to trust anyway.
I would trust women in the future. As an investment. With openness.
The ability to be vulnerable and open with fearless abundance saves me from drama. Stay with me on this one. People will play games and take part in their own dramas. Others do wrong things and they may hurt us.
But I will not shut down my heart, and I trust my instincts as I trust my future to carry me. I trust my openness to ask for the outrageous truth.
I started a new business with a French girlfriend. She cheated on me and ran off with 30,000 euros of my money. To make matters worse, the money I gave her was intended to pay our supplier. It was never paid, and left me looking shady too.
I decided to trust anyway.
I would trust the people I worked with in the future. As an investment. With healing.
We have met others millions of times in this and other lives. We ourselves have made good and bad memories for others. I want to pay my karma and move on.
There is no guarantee my business partners will be loyal. Even so, I want to be noble, and the most noble parts of me trust again and again, though it is sometimes a struggle.
It was the two of us, two women. We shared a common dream: to built an ashram, to lead others without compromise in freestyle spiritual life and mysticism. But she met a man and got pregnant. I love children and so I took this baby from heaven as part of my team. Then she got pregnant again and had no time for our dream.
I decided to trust anyway.
I would trust the women in my life. As an investment. Without any guarantees.
I still keep our dreams wide open for the healing of all women. We both had to admit that reality brought us back to the ground. We both agreed that we hadnâ€™t found any solution to womenâ€™s challenge of balancing work and children. We both agreed that we know about our purpose, and either we can go for it or drop it.
I decide to trust anyway, after every heartbreak and rotten story. We all carry a memoir in miniature like a garment woven through with past dramas and disappointment. We all have these encoded stories of the delusions in our lives.
My soul craves clear space.
Doubt and suspicion are poisonous.
I do better to invest in trust and risk disappointment,
because I can recover from denial and letdown.
But I wonâ€™t ever love with a dark cloud of mistrust hanging over my head.
I would never recover if that poison filtered my heart.
Look, resilience doesnâ€™t come from having guarantees.
Life comes with verifiable ugliness and multi-dimensional beauty.
I trust life.
Always with a free breath because of the millions of endorphins found in loyalty, nobility and breathtaking love.
Trust now. Trust in life. Not everything will be positively, life-affirmingly true.
Deciding to trust anyway is an investment that will become a bridge to possibility and sacred spaces that make us feel golden and good.
Create sacred space. Your investment. No pay backs.
4 reasons why money does not flow
the way you would wish.
And 4 remedies.
Lately so many friends and people have revealed to me their worries about money. I care about them deeply, so with my love I send an eager prayer to God: Oh, please come on, give them all they need and moreâ€¦ Please!
But this is not how it works. We come to earth to expand like the universe expands. We are here to learn and to evolve. We learn mostly through challenges that polish our rough edges. And God wants me to understand that I cannot rescue anyone. We are all called to take responsibility for our lives and actions, for better or worse.
Freedom is not found in liberation from difficult times and situations; it is in growing our capacity to take our lives into our own hands.
The 4 reasons why the cash flow may not be flowing in sync with your thoughts and actions:
: the unforgiven thought
Lingering guilt haunts you. It may be a karmic knot in your love lines or past incarnations holding you back. If your love is blocked in the past and pulls you back, it may obscure your view of the market.
Do not punish yourself anymore. Stay in the present. Observe your thoughts: are they compassionate and favorable, or judgmental? Are you building loops of accusations and cyclical dramas in your mind? Solve everything now: forget whatâ€™s unsolved. Itâ€™s yesterday.
Pay your karmic bill. If you caused someoneâ€™s ruin once you need to pay it back for balance. If you created harm or suffering to others in a former life, even if you led the Inquisition, healing doesnâ€™t require becoming a victim now. Instead itâ€™s your work to teach others how to heal what was broken.
Try this: inhale the thought deeply now “all is forgiven,â€ť and relax in a guilt-free zone. Failing is not comfortable because you planned to win in this lifetime. But the truth is that we all failed badly, once or many times.
Let us get clear, we rise from the ashes not where we have won; we rise from where we have lost.
Where to find help?
A spiritual teacher can help you with bounded karmic effects and forgiveness.
: the refusal of your greatness
You think too small. You have outgrown your shoes, and you are meant to play bigger. Your soul has already decided and your soul plan provides for it. But you remain hiding behind an invisible wall called your â€ścomfortâ€ť zone.
Maybe somewhere along the way your treasures and dreams were lost, or your song was silenced. Maybe you are afraid to feel other peopleâ€™s desires, so you tighten and restrict the flow. There is not enough porousness to move with the divine flow.
Perhaps you have forgotten that to grow is to experience pain. We were born with pain. Every step into the more evolved version of ourselves brings with it the pain the bud endures to open up into its flower. Pain is our initiation into our greatness.
What is shrunken needs to expand. Call in the pain. Yes, love, it hurts. Growth hurts. Itâ€™s the symptom of expansion. Find your courage and go into the places where fear tamps down the pain.
Move with it. To move is to expand. Call up the purpose of your desired greatness and take action into a bigger dream of your future. Instead of collapsing into the back hole, emerge with the opportunities, relationships and environments that serve your higher good. You are meant to be powerful and great. Nothing less serves your soul.
Where to find help?
In every safe, productive, forward-moving space that reflects your greatness.
: the image of yourself is blurred
We all know when it is real, when the authentic hits us, and when we are being repelled by parts that are not true or authentic. Sooner or later most of us instinctively sense the ways that we betray ourselves: jealousy and envy are big players here.
What you have forgotten is a part of yourself. There is a vulnerable part in each of us, and she is the one who makes our real connections. You may have given up your inner authority to know and care for the insecure parts of yourself that we all have. In those times and places, the shadow, or the parts of you that are unloved, are running the show.
The authentic self is plural. It is all that we are: our shadows and our light. We all have many layers, and we are all precious and unique. You may be afraid that when you take an honest look inside you will be ashamed by what you see there. I promise you will find universes.
Explore your authentic. Forget about the extraordinary, the sparkling. Do not copy. Just one honest act affects all worlds when it comes from you, the real you. Love yourself and reach for your essence that is you. Love who you actually are. Grow out of your false, artificial image and recall it from its projection into the world. Shining brightly doesnâ€™t mean not having any stains, it is the acceptance of all we are. Make a friendship with your shadow. She is the gateway to explore all the parts of yourself. In fact, our shadow is a powerful teacher to walk with, showing us the dimension of our real essence.
Where to find help?
I am big fan of the shadow work of Debbie Ford.
: you just do not love it anymore
You may be trapped in your own desperation. You do not love the people or the work and think you must do it for the money and for the very short-term success. But you have lost your love and you are damaging yourself.
Because, look: we are meant to create aliveness. Money likes aliveness. What is loved will live and breathe freely. What lives and breathes, attracts. Control is the antidote. Control it and it will stifle and die.
Remember the maze. The zone. Get back to the genuine. Be honest with yourself. Are your thoughts and actions not aligned? Itâ€™s no drama not to love something anymore, but to keep it going past its natural time is. What you cannot outpour your love on, let go. Where your excitement and fire does not burn, let it free. It may take awhile to experience the difference of what stokes love and what does not, because we have been overriding our instincts and intuitions for a long time, but itâ€™s worth it. Dare to love.
Where to find help?
In inspiration and good vibes that make you feel good.
In the end Love sells.
Just because she makes us feel so good.
Just because she is sweet like honey.
What you love will grow.
And money will be attracted to follow.
You deserve it.
A meditation to enter your personal peace, for the beginning of peace in this world.
We are ready to send off the shadows of our losses.
We are ready to plant peace into the hearts of our enemies for all eternity.
The origin of world peace is you. When you enter a state of presence everything enters and departs at the right time; the right people are attracted at the right moment.
We call it flow.
We call it the presence of you.
The Golden Age is built on a collective peace, starting with ourselves.
Most of the worldâ€™s population dreams of an end to all wars: certainly most women and children do, and many men do too.
Locating the peace with yourself makes the difference.
Being in harmony with yourself, you vibrate a radiant magnetism out in the world.
This world is changed by vibration, so we have the power to unite our vibes and rock. We can fly together for a collective and transformative energetic shift.
The real change is not made by action; it cannot be forced out of a place of peace. Rather, it comes gracefully from the flow of inner peace.
You are a peace hotspot.
Your solar plexus is the home base of your peace beacon.
Within you is the instrument of divine peace. Positively charged, your solar plexus core brings great wisdom, clarity, and love. Negatively charged, your core depletes your power and weakens your spirit.
: positively charged
The core of your personal power is peace.
You shine. The sun shines inside and outside of you.
You radiate your star power. You are a peaceful shining light. You know your place in this world and in the universe. You are a river of joy. You are magnetic in your presence. You attract all that belongs to you naturally.
You own your place. You deserve it.
: negatively charged
You are a victim. You feel without power and depressed.
You are trapped by the things that do not belong to you.
You are anxious and have no inner peace. You are arrogant and insecure.
You fear and refuse to grow. You disempower other people.
Your health is weak. (Itâ€™s time to strength your core, baby.)
This is my present for you.
Intention for 2015
Imagine your desires emanating from your positively charged core.
Stay in the present moment from there.
Become a vast river of peace.
You are the river and you walk in the river.
She surrounds you. She walks with you into every shopping mall, she whirrs around you while sitting at your desk, she accompanies you on every flight and into each negotiation.
You act and operate from there.
You walk in that flow, you dance in that flow.
The golden presence of sunlight reminds you of the truth:
You are the beginning of peace.
Peace is a river that flows you into synchronicity.
(Download this meditation to your iPhone and practice it until everything runs like a current in your life.)
You are here.
You are surrounded by golden light; the golden ocean of energy.
It’s the purest love you have ever found.
You are beloved.
breathe it into your body.
Whatever you do, stay in this presence.
Making breakfast for your family, commuting to work, launching your supergoal, driving your car, writing emails or getting lost in Facebook.
Fill your whole body with this golden yellow light.
Choose a yellow tone that is yours and leaves you feeling juicy and peaceful.
Return to your luminous synchronicity.
Return to the place where you are always and already at your core.
You are welcome to repeat this meditation.
Peace is a muscle that needs to be exercised and trained.