February, 2015
HOW TO (UN)LEASH
THE GRACIOUS COSMIC SHOWERS.
Gratitude needs a +
Copyright @ Judy B. Dales
I do not know what your life is up to those days, but mine is a cosmic crack between leaving old skins behind and a new, unknown creation.
It’s itchy sometimes, and overwhelming. When the next thing emerges from the deep, it’s so new, so unfamiliar. The future feels strange because, to us, it is a stranger.
There is just one thing that brings me back to myself when things go this way.
It’s all about shifting the perspective.
“Be thankful for what you have, and you will end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never ever have enough.” @ Oprah Winfrey
If satisfaction is reliant upon external acknowledgement, money, vacations, achieved goals, then that satisfaction will have a very short life span. The material world is fallible and temporary; what you win, you can easily lose. Power gained externally lives externally to you. Much better to invest in internal, eternal, infallible ways to connect.
The number one magical tool to transform your life is laser-sharp gratitude. I promise you it changes things. But I do not want to promote a New Age cliche. So we need to do it right.
I believe in perfection of creation. The universe works mysteriously and we are constantly the beneficiary of her generosity. All has been given to us; such wondrousness we could not have created ourselves.
Even gratefulness is created by the source. To connect to that gratefulness is to tap into the presence of an unimaginably generous force. It takes us instantly back into the flow of the cosmos.
To be grateful does not mean that all is good in this world; certainly it is not. Negativity is so easy. But we need to open new horizons to make gratitude work. Clarissa Pinkola Estes said, “Do not complain, do not criticize, do not condemn.” Those 3 C’s are a turnaround point. When we can catch ourselves in those moments, it’s a chance to open troublesome life situations to new possibilities, and to open up the cosmic flow.
See, this is the work that matters.
Current gratitude is the higher force, the higher aim. You created everything you see, hear, feel, experience. You are meant to flow with the cosmic flow and figure out how to maintain it endlessly.
We are here to realize ourselves. We cannot do this if we undermine our own mission. Life can be cruel, and we still have the potential to mirror our real Selves. We need to brightly polish our life-reflecting and life-affirming mirrors. We need to unravel the Self, for Self realization.
Gratitude is the work that lifts us up, to build energy and motivation.
Here’s the formula:
Start with “I am grateful,” then add the “+”
my favorite gratitude +’s
+1
for the simple, the mundane, the boring
for the silent divinity we constantly overlook
Doing this adds truth, identity and spirit to the essentials, to the perpetual presence of spirit. Gratitude for the clean water running out of your tap, so obvious. The salt in your kitchen that came from the sea. Our sense of eternity, the body of we are in. Just look for what is around you, so naturally filled with grace, the small things so normal to our lives.
Get detailed and specific, like “I am grateful + for my feet that carry me every day from bed to my bath to my workplace. For the way they can be warmed up when they are cold.” or “I am grateful
+ for the sun rising and bringing light into my room when I wake up in the morning.”
Just starting here will open new horizons and richness to your life.
+2
for things that are challenging, devastating or even destructive
This is the most difficult one. When life goes against us, when the death of something is close or we have desperately lost something. You will not rise moaning. No self pity will shift you.
Just try it, and find the seed’s realization in the crops.
“I am grateful + for what this situation is teaching me.”
+ add a lesson of beauty beyond and a change of perspective
+3
for future
She listens and absorbs the vibes you send out.
“I am grateful + for the future.”
+ add a new expansion, a chance to grow, an excitement, a great opportunity.
This where the magic lies.
Detailed gratitude makes the difference.
Gratefulness is a vital organ and an exercise.
It will train your heart and open a way of life.
Here, the source becomes a constant companion.
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The Manifesto of Trust
Trust creates space for others to walk in.
Then invest in their best, and give out bonuses.
Do it with your eyes wide open.
My first real boyfriend cheated on me. He went on tour with a school musical for two months and we did not see each other the whole time. I did not cheat. I was faithful.
I decided to trust anyway.
I would trust men in the future. As an investment. With risk.
It took me awhile to accept that my confident expectation of commitment was not met. But in the end it’s my loyalty to myself that makes the day run smoothly.
My father cheated on my Mum. He went so far as to introduce me to his new conquests, manipulating my trust. The women pretended to be my cool girlfriends as a ploy to turn me into their ally. It was only my instinct telling me: Something is wrong here. Does Mum know?
I did not want to be his accomplice, or theirs. I felt betrayed. We all deserve to be told the truth about situations others put us in, so that we may accept or reject the situation from our essence. Fabricated emotional settings blur our essence’s ability to discern safe ways to interact and connect. Swallow. I went on.
I decided to trust anyway.
I would trust women in the future. As an investment. With openness.
The ability to be vulnerable and open with fearless abundance saves me from drama. Stay with me on this one. People will play games and take part in their own dramas. Others do wrong things and they may hurt us.
But I will not shut down my heart, and I trust my instincts as I trust my future to carry me. I trust my openness to ask for the outrageous truth.
I started a new business with a French girlfriend. She cheated on me and ran off with 30,000 euros of my money. To make matters worse, the money I gave her was intended to pay our supplier. It was never paid, and left me looking shady too.
I decided to trust anyway.
I would trust the people I worked with in the future. As an investment. With healing.
We have met others millions of times in this and other lives. We ourselves have made good and bad memories for others. I want to pay my karma and move on.
There is no guarantee my business partners will be loyal. Even so, I want to be noble, and the most noble parts of me trust again and again, though it is sometimes a struggle.
It was the two of us, two women. We shared a common dream: to built an ashram, to lead others without compromise in freestyle spiritual life and mysticism. But she met a man and got pregnant. I love children and so I took this baby from heaven as part of my team. Then she got pregnant again and had no time for our dream.
I decided to trust anyway.
I would trust the women in my life. As an investment. Without any guarantees.
I still keep our dreams wide open for the healing of all women. We both had to admit that reality brought us back to the ground. We both agreed that we hadn’t found any solution to women’s challenge of balancing work and children. We both agreed that we know about our purpose, and either we can go for it or drop it.
I decide to trust anyway, after every heartbreak and rotten story. We all carry a memoir in miniature like a garment woven through with past dramas and disappointment. We all have these encoded stories of the delusions in our lives.
My soul craves clear space.
Doubt and suspicion are poisonous.
I do better to invest in trust and risk disappointment,
because I can recover from denial and letdown.
But I won’t ever love with a dark cloud of mistrust hanging over my head.
I would never recover if that poison filtered my heart.
Look, resilience doesn’t come from having guarantees.
Life comes with verifiable ugliness and multi-dimensional beauty.
I trust life.
Always with a free breath because of the millions of endorphins found in loyalty, nobility and breathtaking love.
Trust now. Trust in life. Not everything will be positively, life-affirmingly true.
Deciding to trust anyway is an investment that will become a bridge to possibility and sacred spaces that make us feel golden and good.
Create sacred space. Your investment. No pay backs.